Creating a home life rhythm did not come naturally to me at all. I am a free spirit. I don't like to be bossed around, especially not by the clock. Schedules felt constraining, if not suffocating to me. I wanted our days to be wide open to whatever possibilities, needs, or opportunities arose, whether that was meeting a friend for lunch with my kids in tow, creating an enormous mess doing crafts, or snuggling in together, reading as many books as we could. We had a general routine around nap time and bedtime, but other than that, our days were mostly unstructured.
For awhile, that worked for us. When I only had two kids, I appreciated the freedom. After we adopted Tia, she was such an amazing sleeper, sleeping 12 hours at night and 3 hours during the afternoons, that we naturally fell into a rhythm.